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Not knowing that you have a villain inside you, a hero, and a bystander is a lesson that everyone should learn.
What is the quote from Jingo, by Sir Terry Pratchett, to the effect of "when someone does something terrible, we want it to be one of Them, because if it isn't Them, then it is Us?"
“It was because he wanted there to be conspirators. It was much better to imagine men in some smoky room somewhere, made mad and cynical by privilege and power, plotting over the brandy. You had to cling to this sort of image, because if you didn’t then you might have to face the fact that bad things happened because ordinary people, the kind who brushed the dog and told their children bedtime stories, were capable of then going out and doing horrible things to other ordinary people. It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone’s fault. If it was Us, what did that make Me? After all, I’m one of Us. I must be. I’ve certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We’re always one of Us. It’s Them that do the bad things.”
Jingo. 1997. Pratchett, Terry. NY, London, and Ankh-Morpork: Harper-Collins. p. 205
Wait, it got better.
He does this a lot, to my deep surprise in undergrad:
For reference, the reason nobody likes this book and you can press tofu with it is that it’s about 1600 pages long.
It’s also, by all accounts, the origin of Cousin Throckmorton
discovered a dog called Sock today. short for Socrates. if you even care
this post has been up for a month and brought me endless joy. here are some names from the notes
ALT
ALT@border-collie there’s a litter theme in here somewhere
I mean, a philosopher themed litter is both original and interesting 😂
You know, when I see fictional characters who repress all their emotions, they're usually aloof and very blunt about keeping people at a distance, sometimes to an edgy degree—but what I don't see nearly enough are the emotionally repressed characters who are just…mellow.
Think about it. In real life, the person that's bottling up all their emotions is not the one that's brooding in the corner and snaps at you for trying to befriend them. More often than not, it's that friendly person in your circle who makes easy conversation with you, laughs with you, and listens and gives advice whenever you're upset. But you never see them upset, in fact they seem to have endless patience for you and everything around them—and so you call them their friend, you trust them. And only after months of telling them all your secrets do you realize…
…they've never actually told you anything about themselves.
more like
[Start Id: screenshot of tags reading: “its not massively racist but probably when I introduced myself to someone as hibiki and they were like “oh my name’s hibiki too”
me: “oh cool”
them: “well it’s hibiki in Japanese”
me: “ok I’m gonna need you to explain what you mean by that”
them: “hibiki is Japanese for ethan”
and I about shat myself. I needed to know what the fuck they were thinking and their source was fUCKING BULBAPEDIA BECAUSE THE POKEMON NPC IS CALLED ETHAN IN ENGLISH AND HIBIKI IN JAPAN. CANNOT FUCKING MAKE THIS SHIT UP. I just said “I don’t know how to tell you that that’s not how names work in real life” /End Id]
grizzled dead-inside hired assassin but he never falls for the femme fatale he only falls for the Completely Awkward Guy At The Computer and it's really frustrating for him
sorry had to revise this from secret agent to assassin; I want no connotations of suaveness. i want a functioning alcoholic who hasn't shaved in days bleeding ("am I bleeding? jesus fu—") from a torso wound, passing out, gun in hand, and waking up to Guy At The Computer making a functioning nuclear reactor in Minecraft. He looks up groaning and is just like "bad news: i'm still alive worse news: i'm deeply attracted to this....person" nerd swivels around in an ergonomic chair "oh you're awake!" takes off his headset and he's wearing a loss t-shirt
what are you even supposed to do when youre angry. cant scream at anyone cos im not a dick. cant break anything cos i paid money for that. cant rip my hair out cos i need it on my head. literally what now
some options, because it’s way healthier to express your emotions than to shove them down and bottle them up - including anger:
- go somewhere private to scream (cars are a good option)
- punch a pillow
- go somewhere outdoors and not busy and just throw whatever you find - rocks, branches, etc
- go for a walk, run, workout, whatever suits you. exercise uses up a lot of the stress hormones involved in anger
- talk it out with someone who’s happy to listen
- if no-one’s available to listen, write down what’s on your mind
- deep breaths, music, stims, whatever helps to calm you until you’re in a time and place where you can express yourself more freely
- and last but definitely not least: say you’re angry! to whoever you’re angry at, even! consider what outcome you’d like from this conversation and if it’s attainable. you might need to process your anger in other ways first, so that you’re calm enough to work towards whatever goal you have
Yeah you're right. It WOULD be pretty fucked up if you were a swan but you were raised by ducks and you grew up never seeing another swan or even knowing that such a thing as a swan even existed so you just thought you were a duck with something super wrong with it.
